Just the other day, my husband and I were talking about the unfortunate deaths of Anthony Bourdain and Kate Spade. Whats unfortunate is that they are both well-known celebrities who apparently struggled with depression. To me, depression and being a celebrity almost sounds like an oxymoron because they have fame, fortune, and can do just about anything they want. I mean, both climbed to the top in their respective professions, so was there nothing left for them to conquer? Or perhaps it has to do with the fear of lost success or becoming irrelevant? Apparently, being a celebrity or well-known isn’t always the greatest.
So that led us to a conversation about one of my husband’s very close friends. He’s the type that is in need of constant vailidation and posts way too often on FaceBook. His personality and obvious depressive demeanor began to affect me as a viewer. I ended up having to unfollow him on FaceBook because of it. Its hard to see how others don’t realize that he keeps up this facade of being a happy, enthusiastic guy when in reality, he is super self-conscious and thrives off of attention. And worse, he surrounds himself with the same type of people, of which I feel creates an instant recipe for disaster rather than coveted fame. IF he was given the instant fame and recognition, would this change how he is and would this satisfy his neverending quest for “fame” and “success”? My husband and I don’t think so. In fact, he would probably follow the same fate as Bourdain and Spade.
I don’t mean to say that in a rude way, but I feel that wanting this instant recognition has become such a big thing now-a-days that people don’t really know what to do with it once they have it. I mean, this is no easy feat to come by, and it takes a lot of work & dedication to achieve it, but its all the same when you have it. You have to maintain your relevancy in order to maintain your popularity. You can’t just make one viral video or post and expect to ride off of that for the rest of your “career”. It seems to me that those type of people who want this type of fame would end up struggling and unable to cope with their irrelevancy…
So, why is it necessary that you achieve this type of success?
Do not let the number of likes, shares, comments, or views on your personal content be the governing factor whether or not you’re successful. Success is not always defined by popularity – its what you make of it. In fact, why would you want to build a personality that is not yours in order to be liked? You are unique in you’re own way, and shouldn’t be put down by something so trivial as this. The important thing to learn with our recent celebrity deaths is that the grass isn’t always greener on the other side.